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Re: Family Matters

Post by Moh » 26 Dec 2016, 13:53

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Post by Wendyf » 26 Dec 2016, 14:01

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Re: Family Matters

Post by Bodger » 26 Dec 2016, 15:26

Stanley, sorry for your loss, im not a man of faith, but we have 4 daughters and i can understand your feelings as a father, Chin up mate and be strong . Tony

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Re: Family Matters

Post by Stanley » 26 Dec 2016, 16:43

Thanks to all of you. You have no idea how much it has helped me knowing that so many people are out there sharing the pain. Don't worry, I am looking after myself.
I wrote her obituary for the paper this afternoon, now that was a surreal experience.....
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Post by Tizer » 26 Dec 2016, 16:48

We send you our condolences, Stanley. You were already grieving and, as Ian wrote, you must take good care of yourself. Love from us.
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Post by Sue » 26 Dec 2016, 22:50

My deepest condolences, Stanley and to all of your family.
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Post by chinatyke » 27 Dec 2016, 00:59

Sincere condolences, Stanley. I'm glad she was able to make the trip to England to say your goodbyes in person. What a brave and determined lady. Thinking of you.
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Post by Stanley » 27 Dec 2016, 05:22

Again thanks to you all. It's a strange morning this morning.... The usual stresses inside a grieving family are working themselves out and I am keeping quiet now. They know where I am and how I feel. One strange thought occurred to me, her sisters and I have known Janet longer than anyone else...
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Post by Nolic » 27 Dec 2016, 07:43

I am sorry for your loss. Love, Colin
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Post by Julie in Norfolk » 27 Dec 2016, 08:32

Our condolences are with you Stanley. It was great that she came over so you could see her; and I know that talking together and the understanding you both gained from that was the best thing for both of you. Thinking of you and your family. Julie and Steve.
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Post by Stanley » 27 Dec 2016, 11:01

Again, thanks to you all for your support, it really has made a difference. Now it's the climb back to equilibrium and normality..... You all know about that! I've just spent two hours on a knotty problem in the shed. It's quite amazing how healing something like that can be. Love to you all. XXX
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Post by LizG » 27 Dec 2016, 21:14

I'm so sorry to hear your news Stanley. Make sure you look after yourself. xx
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Post by Stanley » 28 Dec 2016, 03:47

I'm doing OK thanks Liz. Sleeping like a log! Thanks for caring.
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Post by Stanley » 28 Dec 2016, 07:23

Possibly my last update.....
This notice will be in the Perth papers this week. I've sent to the BET but not sure if it will get in on Friday.

GRAHAM, Janet
Died at home peacefully on Boxing Day surrounded by her family, aged 51.
Much loved wife of Robert Reeve and amazing mum of Holly, Yiota and Harry Protoolis.
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Post by Cathy » 28 Dec 2016, 08:17

For you Stanley and all Janet's family.

We will meet your special people
As they slide away from sight
We love and sadly help them,
bring them to the special light
They are fighters lost the battle
Here their work has just begun
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Post by David Whipp » 28 Dec 2016, 08:26

I've no words to express the depth of pain I feel for you Stanley; it was a blessing that Janet's passing was painless and peaceful though and that she was able to put things in order before she went.

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Post by Stanley » 28 Dec 2016, 16:16

Thanks again to you. The BET have come up trumps, both the death notice and the obit will be in Friday's edition......
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Post by Moh » 29 Dec 2016, 15:05

Here here xx
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Re: Family Matters

Post by Stanley » 31 Dec 2016, 06:52

The funeral is on the 4th and I realise that this will be a further weight lifted from us. I think they call it 'closure'.
Later..... Why on earth do the designers of condolence cards imagine that glitter is a good thing.........?
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Re: Family Matters

Post by Stanley » 03 Jan 2017, 05:43

Janet's body has been cremated and tomorrow they have a memorial service at the cemetery where Harry is buried. I think it will be a good thing when it is done. Almost like drawing a line under the account.
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Re: Family Matters

Post by Marilyn » 03 Jan 2017, 09:38

How is Janet's husband coping?

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Post by Tizer » 03 Jan 2017, 09:59

Stanley wrote:Why on earth do the designers of condolence cards imagine that glitter is a good thing.........?
The recycling companies don't like glitter and state: `Keep card or paper packaging with glitter out of the recycling container', so we might see it decline with time. (Edit: After writing this I went to the next topic and found that you've already mentioned about the recycling problem there!)

Now back to Maz's question, `How is Janet's husband coping?'

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Re: Family Matters

Post by PanBiker » 03 Jan 2017, 10:34

Thinking of you Stanley and also remembering that it is 24 years today since my Dad died. He was taken ill on Christmas Eve as a result of his non operable frontal lobe tumor diagnosed three months before. He lapsed into coma from which he never recovered.
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Post by Stanley » 04 Jan 2017, 04:42

Robert is badly affected but coping by keeping busy. He will be OK I think but in some ways he has been hit worse than anyone as he had less time with Janet.
Have a look at THIS for the location of the memorial park where Big Harry is buried and the memorial event is being held as I write. A lovely place with Kangaroos and wild life. I think I am OK and glad that we are getting past this milestone. Now we have to go through the usual interminable administration before complete closure..... I have started on it already from this end, the sooner it is done the better!

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Post by Sue » 04 Jan 2017, 08:20

It's a beautiful place Stanley, and that all helps on closure. My mum and Dad are in the old part of Burnley cemetery, under a very old spreading oak tree. They would love the spot. In autumn the spot is surrounded by beautiful coloured leaves. I like to think they are happy there.
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